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Topic: CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK Posted: 11/Aug/2009 at 2:36pm
Change Your Thinking
It will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking..
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.
One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.
His bed was next to the room's only window.
The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end.
They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation..
Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and colour of the world outside.
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.
Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every colour and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.
As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.
Although the other man could not hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.
Days, weeks and months passed..
One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.
She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.
As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.
He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed.
It faced a blank wall.
The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.
The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.
She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.'
Epilogue:
There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.
Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.
If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy.
'Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present .'
Stockmarket is a weird place. For every person who buys a stock there is a person who sells it and both think they are very smart.
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Posted: 11/Aug/2009 at 10:07pm
The Art of Giving
"Rivers do not drink their own water , nor do tree eat their own fruit , nor do rain clouds eat the grains re ared by them. The wealth of the noble is used solely for the benefit of others?
Even after accepting that giving is good and that one must learn to give , several questions need to be answered.
The first question is when should one give ?
Yudhisthir asks a beggar seeking alms to come the next day.
On this , Bhim rejoices , that Yudhisthir his brother , has conquered death! For he is sure that he will be around tomorrow to give. Yudhisthir gets the message. One does not know really whether one will be there tomorrow to give!
The time to give therefore is NOW.
The next question is 'how much to give ?'
One recalls the famous incident from history. Rana Pratap was reeling after defeat from the Moghals.
He had lost his army , he had lost his wealth , and most important he had lost hope , his will to fight.
At that time in his darkest hour , his erstwhile minister Bhamasha came seeking him and placed his entire fortune
at the disposal of Rana Pratap. With this , Rana Pratap raised an army and lived to fight another day.
The answer to this question how much to give is " Give as much as you can!
The next question is
what to give?
It is not only money that can be given. It could be a flower or even a smile.
It is not how much one gives but how one gives that really matters.
When you give a smile to a stranger
that may be the only good thing received by him in days and weeks!
"You can give anything but you must give with your heart !
One also needs answer to this question whom to give ?
Many times we avoid giving by finding fault with the person who is seeking. However , being judgmental and rejecting a person on the presumption that he may not be the most deserving is not justified.
"Give without being judgmental !
Next we have to answer 'How to give ?
Coming to the manner of giving , one has to ensure that the receiver does not feel humiliated , nor the giver feels proud by giving.
'Let not your left hand know what your right hand gives? Charity without publicity and fanfare , is the highest form of charity.
'Give quietly !
While giving let not the recipient feel small or humiliated.
After all what we give never really belonged to u s. We come to this world with nothing and will go with nothing. The thing gifted was only with us for a temporary period. Why then take pride in giving away something
which really did not belong to us?
Give with grace and with a feeling of gratitude.
What should one feel after giving ?
We all know the story of Eklavya. When Dronacharya asked him for his right thumb
as "Guru = Dakshina". He unhesitatingly cut off the thumb and gave it to Dronacharya.
There is a little known sequel to this story. Eklavya was asked whether he ever regretted the act of giving away his thumb when he was dying.
His reply was "Yes ! I regretted this only once in my life. It was when Pandavas were coming in to kill Dronacharya who was broken hearted on the false news of death of his son Ashwathama and had stopped fighting.
It was then that I regretted the loss of my thumb.
If the thumb was there , no one could have dared hurt my Guru?
The message to us is clear.
Give and never regret giving !
And the last question is
' How much should we provide for our heirs ?
Ask yourself , 'Are we taking away from them the "gift of work? - a source of happiness!'
The answer is given by Warren Buffett:
"Leave your kids enough to do anything , but not enough to do nothing !
I would conclude by saying: let us learn the Art of Giving , and quoting Sant Kabir:
"When the wealth in the house increases ,
When water fills a boat , Throw them out with both hands !
Edited by Mohan - 11/Aug/2009 at 10:08pm
Be fearful when others are greedy and be greedy when others are fearful.
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