Originally posted by tyler_durden
tiger ji i am in love with that thought....and my deepest feelings are in synch with this thought....but given the way we are bought up...the society in which we live....it makes it difficult to follow these words....
society approves of marriage without love....and even if its like living with the enemy society/parents etc have no problem with that...because it is in accordance with what THEY PERCEIVE as righteous thing......
have you read jonathan livinston seagull???
we are hardly taught how to enjoy life...how to find the purpose of one's life and follow one s dream....and if one dares to go against the set norms...he faces the outrage of the other people....
and any girls out here?? i feel girls are driven by a sense of security...for them marriage is the culmination of love...whereas i feel there is no need to culminate love....and i think girls do so because right from there birth they re told they will move outta there parent's place and go with their groom..... |
Tyler jee, somethings will remain the same always no matter how much "a times they are changing".
Men give love for sex and Women give sex for love. Many guys start feeling (somewhere along the way), that women are basically security conscious and hence "Men give love for sex and Women give sex for security".
But sir jee, I intuitively feel that is incorrect. Yes, women DO MARRY for getting security(physical security more than anything else). But women is much more than that...every woman has a maternal instinct in them and they are softer in nature(even though mentally quite stronger than men in many cases). So, don't try to jump to conclusions about woman in a line..they are mysterious creatures!
As for marriage, Tyler jee...it is not compulsory that ONE HAS TO MARRY! But in that case, one should have a SET PLAN in his mind like focusing on something positively concerete in his life(like career etc.) and also have a social hobby that he does in a group(like yoga, gym, joining some satsang, social work etc.)
There are other much important things in life than just "love of a girl". If one realizes it now, good...else at 60 years of age, realize to hona hee hain. One has to decide when..now or at 60!
So, stay poisitve Tyler jee. Negativity never solves anything. Positive Attitude SOLVES EVEN THE MOST DIRE OF CIRCUMSTANCES!
Edited by omshivaya - 12/Feb/2008 at 11:48am
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.... I will always vote for love marraige ... but either love or arrange final decision on marraige shud be taken only after spending enough time with ur to be partner.
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